This past year, I've had more time than usual to think about my future. I'm graduating from college in a year and I've yet to see the world outside my own. I'm 20 years old and I can't help but feel like I am so small in comparison to the rest of the outside world. Oh sure, I've made plans to travel, to soak up as much culture and experience as I can before I'm too old and busy to think about big adventures. But the more I think about what lies ahead, the more anxious I become about all of my dreams and aspirations slipping out of my ambitious fingers.
I say that because we've been taught since we were toddlers that our main concern in life should be "getting a good job with benefits" and "finding the right person" and "becoming a contributing member of society." Our elders want what's best for us, of course, but who decided that settling was the ultimate goal? What happened to the American Dream, the idea that everyone who is well and able should do whatever it takes to chase their dreams and find their own success?
Well, Uncle Sam and the rest of society can go take a flying leap. Because in all honesty, thinking about the future is depressing. And depressed isn't how I want to feel when I make plans or consider what might be coming next. I don't want to have a 5-year plan, or think about 401k plans, or worry about just paying the bills. And while I understand that survival in this fast-paced world takes responsibility and hard work, I've always felt that there is something more to life than just existing day by day (or paycheck to paycheck).
Don't get me wrong, I like the idea of security. But I don't think having a plan is all it's cracked up to be. After all, planning for the future can only get you so far. Life is uncertain and ever-changing. And while I don't recommend completely living on the edge (since living is technically the goal), I think life deserves more spontaneity, more adventure.
Have you ever been going about your business shopping for groceries or reading a book or chatting with your friends and you suddenly get a longing deep in your bones to drop everything, get on a plane, and just go somewhere? I have. Many times. So many times, in fact, that my thirst for adventure can finally be made into a reality. So I'm planning a trip to Ireland in May of 2016. I've saved and planned and researched for almost two years and the fact that the number one item on my bucket list is about to be crossed off makes all of my hard work and anticipation worthwhile.
I'm not telling you this to make you envious, but rather, to let you know that adventure is possible, regardless of what others say or what you may see as your limitations. When I tell people about my dreams of traveling and exploring, I often get told to stop wishing my life away. And while it's rather annoying that so many people don't understand why I want the things that I want, I know that I don't have to validate myself (especially my goals) for anyone.
So I want to let you know that it's okay to want adventure and excitement. It's okay to have doubts about what society "wants" for you. It's okay to be a dreamer. And it's okay to live your life exactly like you want. Maybe for you, adventure is becoming a CEO of an important company. Or maybe it's paragliding in South Africa. Or maybe it's preforming brain surgery. Or maybe it's getting married and starting a family. Regardless of what it is that you dream of, please don't be afraid to step outside your comfort zone (and the opinions of others) and truly go for it. Whatever it may be.
I think that more often than not, we pack away our big dreams and fantasies into neat little boxes and shove them under our metaphorical beds because we've been tricked into thinking adventure is what irresponsible/flighty/unpredictable people want. But I think it can't be stressed enough how short life really is. After all, when you're 97 years old and your great-grandson asks you what you did in your lifetime, what are you going to have to say for yourself? So do whatever it takes to make your dreams come true. Because your adventure is out there and it is just as achievable as anyone else's.
"Somewhere, something incredible is waiting to be known"
-Carl Sagan